Barriers to loving yourself

The above quote fosters much food for thought don't you think?

Barriers to love, self love, and the love of others are common place and can stem from anything - experiences, trauma or rejection in life.

Barriers are universal and are one and the same, no matter the circumstances or experiences that led to you putting them there.

This is a trauma response, a protection and defence mechanism that you have put into place to stop further hurt and trauma.

If it was temporary it would work, however it is when you do not work through these traumas that the barriers become a problem.

They shut you down to experiencing love in all of its forms. Love can be joyful and it can hurt when we do not utilise it correctly and put our human perspectives upon it.

The ego is easily hurt and rightfully so, however we are invited and called to work upon our emotions and emotional intelligence if we are to live and thrive.

These barriers have no legitimate place within us and cut us off from living a fulfilling life.

We do not wish to belittle your feelings as they are valid. We do however place the power to transcend and move through the experiences that placed them there firmly at your door.

You have the power to heal all, it may take time, effort and perhaps upset, but you do hold the key to your own healing and well being.

Enlisting help is an act of empowerment if you require the skills and assistance to help you through.

This is not an act of weakness, it is however a powerful affirmation that you are deserving of the life and the love that you seek from yourself and others.

When you have boundaries in place, that empowers you, when you have barriers in place, that hinders you, as you cut yourself off from the very thing you need, unconditional love!

Take time to sit with this as it may not be immediately evident. Allow time for this to filter through and be recognised.

Remain open to truth, it will serve you well.

How can you seek to find these barriers?

These barriers can be hidden, however your response to love is a telling sign, and when we say love, it isn't just the love of another, which isn't unusual to be within a person's awareness.

The surprise is when you realise that you do not, in fact, love yourself. It is that which can be hidden.

Ask yourself the following questions:

•   How do I show myself love?

•   How do I talk to myself?

•   How do I see myself?

•  Can I look myself in the eye in the mirror and say I love you (despite your imperfections) without cringing or grimacing?

• What feelings does saying I love you to yourself stir?

These few questions should enable you to have an idea of your level of self love, what needs care and attention and what further work is required.

It all starts and ends with you. It really does!

How can you overcome barriers to love?

To work with and on yourself lovingly and honestly. There are a myriad of ways to do so.

To "Know Thyself" is so important as it empowers you and will build self esteem and confidence in who you are.

The love for you will grow each time you know a little more about the "truth" of who you are. You will be pleasantly surprised.

You are your greatest gift, so get to know you, explore you. love, laugh, cry, heal and grow as the magnificent souls that you are.

Great oak trees spring forth from acorns. So too can you spring forth in the knowledge of who you are.

That is beauty, that is light, that really is life.

Dissolving barriers to love

Archangel Raphael steps forward, opens his wings and enfolds you fully, keeping you safe within his love and embrace.

He starts to glow (notice the colour) and emits a light that fills and surrounds you 360.

A light beams out of Archangel Raphael's chest and connects to and enters your heart, filling and surrounding your heart with gentle healing light, energy and frequency that starts to work immediately on dissolving your barriers to love.

The love that Archangel Raphael emits is unconditional, divine love and is of the highest light and integrity.

Dissolving fears born out of untruths and freeing your soul to grow as it was intended to do.

Sit and be with this light and this energy for as long as you are called to.

Ground yourself and return to the here and now.

You may find that things come forward into your mind for release and may be experiences and / or thoughts that you have dismissed in the past as being nothing.

If they have come forward, thank them and release them.

This can be done by  simply saying something like “I thank you and release you” or "I thank you and release you into the love and light of the divine".

Take note of how you are feeling after doing this work and act accordingly.

You may require rest, you may need to speak to someone and you may cry, however you feel is valid.

Be kind to yourself and grateful to yourself for putting in the work.

In love and Service

Jesus Christ, Orion and Archangel Raphael